I Am married to a Wonderful guy we have been together for 4 years and married for 2 we have 2 kids we made a mistake and now it seems like everything is slipping away and I am losing everything.... When he came here he was illegal from Mexico and was working under false name and number and well we never fixed it I think it was more me scared and afraid of losing him we are trying to do the right thing and I am afraid we have waited too long and there's nothing we can do I mean all the trouble that would come from using another name and working he's never been in trouble besides driving without a license nothing major I don't know where to start or what to do with how tight everything is getting I feel like we have to try I guess we are afraid of losing each other either way he is my source of income and my support system if I lose him I lose everything can someone please help me start ........there's got to be a easier way of doing this and we cant afford a lawyer I am stuck

I'm not sure where you are from, but most cities have attorney services that are low cost or even free sometimes. In San Diego it is Casa Cornelia. In Los Angeles I think it is Catholic Charities. Call around and ask.

I understand how you feel. My fiancé of 8 years will be murdered if he is returned to his own country, so I share your misery.

What I will say is this. I lived with my fiancé in Mexico for 8 years. I worked in San Diego and he worked in Tijuana. We had a lovely home in Playas and a decent life. It is not an easy life for you, because you will be the breadwinner, but if you love this man as much as you say, then you will do anything to keep your family together. It is possible, that you could eventually start a business down there if you don't like working, and have a good life. We did. Mexico is a lovely place and it isn't THAT much different in the border town we lived in than San Diego, just cheaper. Many Americans live there for that reason.

Be thrilled that your husband can go home without being murdered. WE don't even have that option, and I brought my husband here legally...surrendered him at the border with his passport in hand and asked for asylum in exchange for information. They approved that request and turned on us.

I will pray for your family to remain united. If you are a U.S. citizen, then vote against any measures in immigration that divide families from now on, or you will then be part of the problem. WE need to unite and help other Americans, not divide families. At least if we follow the quotation at the bottom of the Statue of Liberty and feel it is still appropriate.

Stay strong and know that doing the right thing is always best. I too love my husband we also have two children, we have been married for five yrs and he was our only means of support but their came a time we had to make a decision to do the right thing for our family, so we applied for a permanent resident visa when the time came for his interview he had to go back to Mexico we thought he would get his visa then but they denied him and we had to do a pardon now they say it will be 12 months until his next interview. This has been extremely hard on me and our children, our son suffers from asthma and he has went from a happy boy to a very angry one not understanding why his dad cannot come home, what I am trying to say is I feel your pain and there are many of us out there like you and I am here if you need to rant, cry or just chat.